Las Vegas parents who have decided to get a divorce should take care in how they tell their children and help kids maintain good relationships with both parents.
One of the last things that a parent wants to see is an upset child, especially when that is caused by news that the parent has to share. Unfortunately for parents in Las Vegas who have made the difficult decision to get divorced, there is no way around this. Telling children about a divorce is never easy but there are some ways that parents can work with their kids to make these conversations easier.
The first conversation: breaking the news
According to Psychology Today, the best way to start things off is by holding a family meeting. At this meeting, parents can give all of their children the basic information about the upcoming divorce at one time. This is preferable to telling different siblings one at a time because it prevents some children from having to hold a big secret, which can feel very burdensome to them. Telling everyone together also avoids those who would be told last feeling lesser in some way because they were the last to know.
It is important at this first meeting to keep facts to a minimum yet be clear with the children. Telling them what will not change can be important as that reassures them that they can count on some things. Reiterating the parents' love for their children and continued involvement with their children is perhaps one of the most essential elements at this time.
Ongoing conversations: keeping communication lines open
As the news settles in and changes begin to take shape, parents should seek out opportunities to talk with their children about things. These discussions are sometimes best one-on-one and the content of them will vary quite a bit based upon the ages of the children.
For example, Today's Parent explains that preschoolers will want to know about very basic elements of their daily lives. Who will pick them up from school? Who will read them a bedtime story? Will they still go to Grandma's house for Sunday dinner? Parents should also expect to answer the same questions repeatedly as kids at this age need that reinforcement.
For children who are older and less willing to talk about their feelings, parents should fight the urge to just drop the attempts to talk. Instead, they should find creative ways to bring things up. Talking about someone else or an article that was read that touches on divorce can often be a great door opener. Kids then do not feel as though they have to talk about themselves directly yet their comments can give good insight into their thoughts and feelings.
Preserving good relationships
The Huffington Post recommends that kids should have free communication with both parents at all times. This can be a great way to help facilitate strong relationship with moms and dads, regardless of which parent the child may spend more time with.
Talking to an attorney during a divorce can help parents feel assured that legal matters are properly handled. This, in turn, can give them more time and energy to help their children through the process.